Relationships play a crucial role in our lives. While searching on the Internet, one can find several advertisements, such as “Better Relationships”, tests, and different advices. Most magazines deal with this topic, so do television shows. Some people consider relationships as useful devices to their welfare, while others would not be able to live without personal contacts and interactions.
Relationships determine our ways of thinking, regardless of what kind of people we are. This way, building relationships can become an essential part of one’s lifestyle. Thus, the topic itself is broad; however, we usually do not scrutinize the way our relationships evolve. When we get to know other people, we evaluate them. This quick process is the basis of our opinion of the given person. Then, we have two options (in an ideal case): we want to see the person again, or we want to forget him.
Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Blink, deals with the unconscious process which helps us in the evaluation of other people. According to his “theory”, we usually make snap judgments. Snap judgments are unconscious, and they rely on the thinnest slice of experience. As a result, rapid cognitions take place behind a locked door. In addition, we tend to look for patterns in these situations because we want to make the whole process easier. Many people just get away from this tiny segment of relationships. However, there is a huge problem: the whole process takes just a few seconds, and we still DO NOT want to think. We always try to choose the simplest way. Patterns again, and again… But why don’t we make an effort to open the doors?
Relationships determine our ways of thinking, regardless of what kind of people we are. This way, building relationships can become an essential part of one’s lifestyle. Thus, the topic itself is broad; however, we usually do not scrutinize the way our relationships evolve. When we get to know other people, we evaluate them. This quick process is the basis of our opinion of the given person. Then, we have two options (in an ideal case): we want to see the person again, or we want to forget him.
Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Blink, deals with the unconscious process which helps us in the evaluation of other people. According to his “theory”, we usually make snap judgments. Snap judgments are unconscious, and they rely on the thinnest slice of experience. As a result, rapid cognitions take place behind a locked door. In addition, we tend to look for patterns in these situations because we want to make the whole process easier. Many people just get away from this tiny segment of relationships. However, there is a huge problem: the whole process takes just a few seconds, and we still DO NOT want to think. We always try to choose the simplest way. Patterns again, and again… But why don’t we make an effort to open the doors?
Good post, enjoyed reading it, especially liked that you raised a question in your very last sentence.
ReplyDeleteStrong piece of writing! I could clearly see your point. Well done!
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